A friend once gave me some sound advice, which after a lot of thought and testing, has ended up being one of the most important pieces of advice I’ve ever been given.

- make the decision | commitment from your head - not your heart.

I agree. I agree because of the unstable nature of the heart | our feelings. The heart felt decision to commit is, all of the time, at the mercy of whether you ‘feel like it’ or not. And I would argue that the person capable of mastering and silencing that feeling and sticking with the commitment | decision has actually moved the act from their heart to their head.

- if you’ve made a heart felt commitment to another person, I would suggest that they buckle up and enjoy the roller coaster ride that is your decision making. No?

No, there’s nothing romantic about this suggestion (head based commitment), but I am suggesting that it is a safer for everyone involved. Commitments not based on how you feel, but based on…..commitment. Dry, emotionless, firm decisions to commit. Decisions to firmly and securely love and commit - for the long haul.

No Hollywood here folks. Just adults.

_SKA